This site is dedicated to my ever loving bratty children, my tolerant husband and well to my friends who support me in so many ways even when we don't speak for years. Cheers - to the beautiful and not so beautiful passings in our lives. In other words - those moments when life is painful and all you can do is laugh until you cry (or pee)!

Sunday, February 17, 2008

Hannah Montana & Groundings

Today has been an interesting day...

I woke up at 9:00am on a Sunday to take Amber to see Hannah Montana in the theaters. I really thought that it would rank right up there with getting a colonic. It was in 3-D and yes, it was annoying and terrible.... However, seeing Amber jumping up and down giggling and screaming was worth every bit of the pain and torture (and the $30 the tickets cost - plus $12 in popcorn and a bucket of soda). What a sight, she was SO excited...

Right now I am sitting here listening to torture; no not Hannah Montana - Mallory screaming and crying because she is sick of being grounded. It is a four day weekend for her and she is miserable... God I hate being a mom sometimes. Of course, we never believed our parents when they said that grounding us hurt them as much as it did us...... now we know; grounding does hurt us as parents.

I am going to get to escape to work in the next 2 hours and I can't wait. The pain of listening to her cry is unbearable.

Saturday, February 16, 2008

Mallory's baby brother was born....

So an update to my last post. Mallory has 3 little siblings (possibly more that were adopted out years ago as she was).

She has 2 brothers - one was born yesterday...
She also has a sister

They are all under the age of 5.

I am feeling a little better - Mally was on cloud nine, I am still nervous that she is going to get hurt...

Friday, February 15, 2008

Hmmm why am I upset?

I am sitting here and I feel uncomfortable.... Mallory is talking to her father (yes - Jason her biological father) on the phone in the room next to me.

I have always wanted her to be content in the "dad" department. I just worry that she will be disappointed. I was so crushed when Barry left and she was lonely and abandoned. When Ron came back into the picture she displayed some hope that not all "dad's" are bad... Ron is wonderful to her but she has always been searching for that "real dad".

Jason is a great guy - he actually wouldn't talk to her until he talked to me to make sure that I was ok with it. He also wanted to respect my wishes since he had signed away all rights. He sounds like he is doing well in life (married, kids etc.).

What is strange to me is that Mallory has siblings out there (a lot of them) that she doesn't know. It never really crossed my mind that she has brothers and sisters other than Amber.

I think what it comes down to is............................ I don't share well.

Not really an interesting blog - but I do feel better. Thanks for reading.

Coni

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Brain Purge

So it has been a while since I last posted... The reason - I didn't put it on my schedule.

I have found that my brain is purging everything that is not a part of survival, such as:

Blogging to update my friends
Passwords to everything I need
Showering
and - I can't remember if there is anything else

Yes, it is true - I am not quite sure of the last time I showered because I am not even sure what day it is... Yesterday I slept for a whole 3 hours of a 24 hour day... I am seeing wrinkles that I don't think were there a month ago, black bags under my eyes that are making me look like a raccoon and children that I can't remember if they are mine.

The good news is - I only have another 11 months of this before I can move on with my life, get to know my kids again and possibly get a face lift to repair the damage of this year...

What I find truly amazing is that when you don't have any time, you inevitably are able to find time for those things important to you (obviously showering is not very important to me - although I think those around me disagree with my priorities). I have seen my friends in town more, called more people that I know and I think it is because I am so frantically fearful that I will lose touch with the world. Did any of you know there was a tornado in Tennessee?? I didn't... I guess news is not important anymore either.

Here is what I "think" is happening with my family in the last couple of weeks:

Amber - she is learning life lessons on how to behave properly by watching other children's behavior and trying to reproduce it... surprisingly she is doing well with this.

Mallory - she is doing VERY well. Things got rough for her and she is picking herself up off the ground, dusting off the dirt, healing the bruises and moving on with life. I have high hopes for her abilities. She has signed up for Warren Tech to learn how to be a something I can't spell but it has to do with skincare... She is doing really well at work and even picked up an extra shift when someone called in sick. This is something that most teenagers don't sign up for - extra work!!

Tyler - Tyler was sick and was grounded to "staying home from school". He really wanted to go to school but with much protest he agreed to stay home and vomit...

Ron - oh Ron... he is trying so hard to keep up with his life at work, at home, as a husband, a parent, a computer programmer, a mechanic, oh and did I mention a parent. He has taken on so much of the duties that I cannot do and he is doing an incredible job. He is enjoying playing with his new motor from a Lexus that he is putting into his 4runner. Oh and he is soon to be quitting smoking amidst all of this....

That is all for now - I love and miss you all... I will be paroled from my internship in 11 months and hopefully I will still remember all of your names. Bye for now.

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Hell week/sad death/ACT Tests

This last week has been challenging. I worked 16 hours straight (was supposed to be 20, but I couldn't make it); I don't remember driving home but the only damage was that I drove over the flagstone in the front yard when I got home. It took a couple of days to recover, but I survived.

Sad news... My ex-husband Barry (Ambers Dad), his brother Greg died yesterday. Greg was a great guy always independent and successful. In the last few years things became tough. He couldn't handle how unforgiving and tough life could be. It is suspected that he accidentally ended his young life yesterday afternoon trying to numb the pain of misfortune. Please take a moment to send heartfelt thoughts to his 12 year old daughter and 8 year old son and his wonderful wife of many years.

This situation is so similar to many in this world; this is yet another reason I chose to go into the mental health field. I only wish that more people had the courage to get help.

Update on Mallory - so we have always talked about college with Mallory until about 6 years ago when I got called into her therapists office and asked to quit talking about it "Mallory is NOT interested in going to college". We were crushed and the only bright side we could see in it all is that we could use her college money to build an addition on the house - ensuring that she will have a place to live since without college she probably wouldn't be able to afford a place of her own.

Last week Mallory asked if I could look at the Metro State website to see what the admission requirements were (I assumed that she was asking for a friend). She then saw what the ACT/SAT scores need to be in accordance with GPA. It was one of "those" moments....... she looked at me and said "Mom, I need to get my grades up and get a study book for the ACT/SAT". It was every parents dream - that moment when your child makes an adult decision that you want them to make, but each time you bring it up, they are pushed further for it. I asked her what changed her mind and she said "Well, I can't live on minimum wage now can I?"

I went and bought her the book to study from and got that "I have a masters degree" attitude and sat down to read the questions in the book....... Oh my, we forget a lot...... I effectively answered about 10 questions out of 50 (and I guessing on 6 of them)...

We also need to some good thoughts sent Mallory's way - on Thursday she is having $1,900 in oral surgery done... She is getting 4 impacted wisdom teeth removed and some procedure to encourage her stubborn 12 year molar to make an appearance.... Yeah, I did say $1,900...

Talk to you all soon.

Sunday, January 27, 2008

Oh my where to begin??

OK - here we go:

Me - I have been busy with my internship now for a couple of weeks and things have been hectic... I am treating domestic violence offenders and it has been interesting. Society has a view of these guys like they are all sitting around in "wife beater" t-shirts and hate women. NOT TRUE, most of these guys are normal guys that just need to learn proper responses to anger and frustration. There are some that society would mark as typical but most of them seem to be truly interested in changing their ways - I am excited to be part of their journey!
I am only working 75 hours per week - Yippee, only 50 more weeks of this and I will be graduated!!

I have also been running the kids to appointments and I got frustrated because nobody had convenient appointment times that fit my schedule. After getting mad though I realized that the only convenient time for appointments was after 7pm on Saturday nights. My doctors office and the dentist office tout convenient appointment times - but not in my book. I suddenly realized that there AREN'T any convenient times anymore.

I decided to take some time out and go get a manicure pedicure at one of the asian shops by our house, I was enjoying myself (not really, having someone rip your cuticles off is Not very relaxing). I was in a state of calm when the lady said "you wan eyebow wax? you uppose to hab two" it was at this moment I realized that I have been too busy for beauty regimine and yes... I had one eyebrow - not two... That's ok though, I will pluck them while in traffic on my way to work :)

Mallory - She has been doing SO well. She slipped up once and now if grounded for an indefinite amount of time, but she knows that she made some bad choices and just needs to do a little more work on herself...

Amber - Well, Amber started taking medication to lessen the anxiety that causes her to act strange when she is nervous. The medication works well, except for extreme circumstances such as the hamsters getting out... Mallory bought a new hamster that was small enough to get out of the cage. So we had 2 hamsters on the loose, with 3 cats in the house.
Amber was in the bathroom (going #2) and the hamster ran under the door of the bathroom. Of course the logical thing to do in Ambers world is to stand up tackle the hamster and squeeze it to her chest and run to Mom screaming (pants not quite up yet - oh and she didn't have time to wipe).
So she finds me in the garage and is screaming and holding her chest and crying - of course I immediately think she is hurt as she is grasping her chest. She finally says "hammmmster"!!!!!! So we get the hamster back into our smaller cage and set out to find the other one. As we are looking Amber peeks under the dresser - begins screaming, hits her head on the drawer and starts to hyperventilate. I could care less about the hamster, Amber was about to pass out, all I could do was tell her to breathe while I caught the hamster. Now we have both hamsters in a small cage and then realized we have now put a boy and a girl hamster in the same cage. I will look forward to blogging about our newborn dwarf hamsters....

Tyler - Tyler is doing really well, he is getting good grades and enjoying living with us (I think..). It is always hard to tell with teenage boys what they are thinking. They generally don't listen until you say something like "star-wars" or "transformers". He got grounded for the first time, which he handled well - he was grounded from video games and well without them - he went to bed at 6:00pm...

Ron - Poor Ron, he has been working his job and fixing every virus ridden computer that has landed in our bedroom..... Keep in mind he no longer has an office so he has spent a lot of time in Tylers room fixing computers. Ron has also had his hands full with the cars; he has replaced the "rack" of the focus (sounds like it got a boob job). I also took the Volvo in for an alignment and oil change and was informed that my car needed new brakes and rotors (no problem it's only going to be an extra $800). So, Ron being Ron is going to do the work himself, after all the parts are only $250.

OK - NOW the big news for Ron, he is so excited to have purchased a Lexus engine for the 4-runner, he is going to use a chevy transmission to make his Toyota capable of hauling a "truggy" which will be mine when we are 4-wheeling. Yes, this sounds insane to me too, a 22 year old truck with at least 1 part from every make of car BUT Ford. But this is what Ron enjoys doing in his free time. Truck parts are like crack cocaine for him.

Talk to you all soon...

Friday, January 11, 2008

Guitar Hero, Hannah Montana and AC/DC

How good do you sleep? Well, it depends if you have kids (older ones). I am SO glad the kids are back in school. Over Christmas break I repeatedly tried to sleep through all the kids in the house; here is a peek of their activities:

Tyler: Playing Guitar Hero at full volume...
Mallory: Listening to AC/DC at full volume to drown out guitar hero
Amber: Watching 4,000 episodes of the same Hannah Montana show, giving her own concert..
All of them: Fighting non-stop at volumes above all items listed above
All of them: Playing World Wide Wrestling in my living room and then crying because they got hurt!

Although it is tough to sleep; I LOVE the sounds of a house full kids - at least they are home and not off getting in trouble.

Also, I am hereby toasting the teachers of the world that now have the children everyday until Spring break!!

Love you all...

Saturday, January 5, 2008

Split pants & Internships

CHRISTMAS GATHERING

This is my best christmas memory for this year! A day with the girls in Conifer opening gifts, eating food, drunk roller-skating and just laughing, crying and having fun!

My best gift: A beautiful pink blanket made by Lance - a man who is redefining who he is, a master crafter! Not sure how to turn the picture - so turn your head...


LIFE SINCE CHRISTMAS!!!

OK so things have been interesting in the last two weeks.

INTERNSHIP
I went to my interview for an internship at Parker, Froyd and Associates. They are a Forensic Psychology group working with Court Ordered Clients.

I was so nervous about the interview I actually pulled over on the way there and threw up EWE!! I was careful not to blow chunks on my suit jacket, but my breath was atrocious so I put gum in my mouth, forgot to take it out and almost choked on it in the lobby........... YIKES, I am dying for this internship but I was worried I was going to die in their lobby...

After I gained my composure I walked into the interview and I must say - the Gods are not crazy today - they are amazing. This place is an interns dream, they actually seem to want to help me go from a baby therapist to a big girl. They are going to help me get certified by the DVOMB (Domestic Violence Offender Management Board) which is no small task. They are willing to offer me the hours I want (2 evenings a week, all day friday and 1 saturday a month)... I am in awe of how things are coming together. Thank you to all of you who summoned whatever higher power you beleive in and sent good thoughts my way..

I am not being a narcissist by putting a picture of myself (a bad picture) on my blog - I am only letting you all see what I look like since you may not see me for a year (because of my internship) and I am sure the after picture will look like the next photo...


Oh my - I am going to be tired...........





SPLIT MY PANTS
OH MY! I went to get in the car last night to go to the chiropractor and the seat felt awfully warm (I have heated seats). I go into the chiropractor and lay face down on the table when my oh so smooth husband says "Honey you need new pants" what he failed to tell me was that my ENTIRE ASS was hanging out!!!!

After a bright red giggle or two the chiropractor says he has seen it all (You bet he has ALL OF MY ASS). So as he is adjusting me, they rip some more. My only saving thought is "Thank god I didn't wear a thong, or better yet, go commando." So I get ready to leave walking out of the building as proud as can be that I... am not afraid to let the world see my Hello Kitty underwear.

NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS
  • Spend some time writing all of my Oh so fun adventures, so I may never forget them - and tell the world about them.
  • Work my rear end off at my internship (Translation: See you all next year!).
  • Spend lots of quality time with the kids (Translation: Room searches and discipline) - I am hoping to help Amber with her anxiety by spending more time with her...... when I can find some.
  • Keep in touch at least over the phone once per month with every one of my friends.
  • Thank my husband daily for taking me and all of my adventures in stride and loving me anyway!
  • Be nicer to people (not nice..... just nicer).

Saturday, December 22, 2007

BUSY, BUSY, BUSY - oh Happy Freakin Holidays

Well, my bay window is broken but no worries, we have free replacement - it will be here the end of January...

I have completed my shopping through hell and back but none of the gifts caught fire (yet).

Ron is doing his shopping early this year (today). He is 2 days earlier than usual.

Mallory is doing well - of course murphy's law, the rack and pinion on her car broke so we are sharing the Volvo - of course the Volvo is a turbo and doesn't have a camera in it so god only knows what she is doing in my car.

I took Amber to the psychiatrist and par for the course - she acted psychotic (she does this when she is nervous). We have had instances where she crawls on the floor, rolls around, screams in terror and loses all control... although it is embarrassing sometimes, I know she has an illness and at times can't help it. Anyway - she barked (literally) at the psychiatrist and rolled on the floor.

I also took her to the store the other day and it was crowded, Amber was standing in the middle of the store shaking wildly and screaming in terror, people were running up to her to find out what was wrong; she forgot where I was and lost it.

The psychiatrist has removed her bi-polar diagnoses given that she is acting less depressed and more psychotic (but only when she is anxious). So he put her on a medication for anxiety in hopes of calming her at school (and everywhere else) when she gets anxious and out of control. The medication is making her tired but she should get used to it before she returns to school on January 8th. We love her so much, we just need to stop her barking in public...

GREAT NEWS - I have an interview for an internship January 3rd at Parker, Froyd and Associates to do my internship in Forensic Psychology. I am REALLY looking forward to it. They do Psychological evaluations, work with police when an officer is struggling or when there is an officer involved shooting. They have a quick response team that dispatches (via the police dept) when there is a crime with victims. They also treat Domestic Violence Perpetrators, victims and children. In addition, I will still get to do Grief work with them...

Love you all - Happy holidays and for those of you expecting a christmas card, as usual you may get them in June.

Thursday, December 6, 2007

Random Pictures

Memories of our Last Colorado Winter - yes there were 2 cars in the driveway


This picture is just amazing - Mallory took it at the Botanic Gardens last spring.


This is our stubborn but cute cat, with amazing vocal talents - Punkin...




This is something that is hard to look at - my daughter in a wedding veil and AC/DC pants - good Lord, when she does get married, this will probably be her attire of choice.... Yikes - she a little weird, but we love her anyway!



I thought it might be fun to post some pictures that have just been sitting in my camera..........